tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4683970826895755480.post3351249417633309496..comments2024-03-28T21:32:26.550+00:00Comments on Bruce Charlton's Notions: What is the best system for finding and choosing a wife or husband? Bruce Charltonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09615189090601688535noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4683970826895755480.post-21727374981390100152016-01-19T22:11:11.480+00:002016-01-19T22:11:11.480+00:00@dl - My understanding is that in the old days (up...@dl - My understanding is that in the old days (up to thye industrial revolution) very few children survived to adulthood, except among the most intelligent/ prosperous/ higher class - so I don't think there were many marriages to arrange. Bruce Charltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09615189090601688535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4683970826895755480.post-28207254662011225562016-01-19T21:13:49.516+00:002016-01-19T21:13:49.516+00:00I wrote something about this-
https://deconstruct...I wrote something about this-<br /><br />https://deconstructingleftism.wordpress.com/2015/12/12/organized-or-disorganized-legacies/<br /><br />to the effect that in the old days older children probably got help, younger children much less or none from the parents, but if lucky could find a living and a spouse. Many more young people now find themselves in the position of a younger child in the old days. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4683970826895755480.post-17175851021762219482016-01-19T13:13:59.461+00:002016-01-19T13:13:59.461+00:00@BB - In most historical societies, the wife's...@BB - In most historical societies, the wife's parents took the lead, or at least exerted the greatest level of control; but the process is mostly a matter of 'matching' so there needs to be mutuality if possible, based on realistic appraisal of the relative 'value' of the son or daughter in that particular social context. For most people in most situations there is not much choice - for some people at the bottom of the pecking order it may be a matter of 'Hobson's choice' (i.e. this or nothing). Bruce Charltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09615189090601688535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4683970826895755480.post-29225398716161801582016-01-19T12:52:47.022+00:002016-01-19T12:52:47.022+00:00Bruce,
Do you think that the choice should be made...Bruce,<br />Do you think that the choice should be made by the bride’s parents or the groom’s. I think it’s common among some American conservative Evangelicals that the bride’s parents choose male suitors but allow the boys to choose girls to court.<br />Bruce B.noreply@blogger.com