Thursday, 1 May 2014

What do men *actually* mean when they say a woman is 'sexy'?

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That they would be prepared to have sex with that woman, at least once

IF:

1. It did not cost much in time or effort, and

2. If nobody else knew about it, and

3. If there were no strings attached - the man could walk away afterwards with no obligations or commitments.

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So, for a woman to be described as 'sexy' isn't really a very high bar to clear, is it?

And it isn't really something a woman should regard as much of a compliment, is it?

And it isn't really something in search of which a woman should go to great lengths of artificially sculpting her body, make-up, diet, exercise, piercing and tattooing, wearing revealing and tight clothing, and - in general - presenting herself as the kind of person who seems likely to fulfil the above three criteria...

Is it?

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5 comments:

Bruce B. said...

These days men use the word “hot” which basically means the same thing as “sexy.”

Bruce Charlton said...

@BB - Yes, although sexy is still current; in today's news

https://uk.celebrity.yahoo.com/gossip/omg/fhm-100-sexiest-wome--susanna-reid-rockets-up-chart-michelle-keegan-hottest-in-britain-182335640.html

You'll note the header picture as a fair example of what I am talking about - a low bar indeed...

Paul Warkin said...

Anyone can be sexy--you just have to highlight primary and secondary sex organs and look like you're in heat. Not everyone can be beautiful, that requires innate physical traits, good hygiene, self-restraint, class, etc. Sexy is the degenerated egalitarian version of beauty.

Bruce Charlton said...

@PW- Maybe... But I don't really think that this issue is rooted in egalitarianism.

Wm Jas said...

So, the logic is: if that's all a reasonably "sexy" woman can expect from a man -- then a woman who wants something more had better make herself super-duper sexy. Hence the great lengths to which women go.